What is it that you really want in life? Focus on that. Focus requires sacrifice, De-focusing from everything else. Focus requires faith, Trusting that focus matters And that grace will be there When you need it.
Let go of the outcome, And at the same time, Stay committed to the path.
Certainty only comes After you take the leap of faith, Not before.
First, you must understand attachment and detachment. Desire itself and the thing that is desired are two different things. Detachment is to experience the desire — and all the feelings and thoughts that come with it — separately from the desired thing; to feel desire but not attach it to some outcome.
Once desire is detached from any object, a strange emptiness is felt. Simone Weil calls this “the void.” Others call it a “God-sized hole.”
Experiencing the void does not make God come to us, but it opens the door and invites him. With wisdom beyond ours, he decides whether to enter or speak.
Simply, to give it up to God is to feel the desire but not reason or think about the thing that is desired. In that empty space, wait for God.
This is difficult to do, even for just a couple minutes. Try. Let it be prayer. You might experience a great deal of peace in letting go of yourself.
And what of the physical feelings — the trembling hands, the pounding heart, the cramped gut — how do you give those to God? Love in spite of them. It’s not easy, but it is the way.